Movie-Precious

Minerva Marin                                                Movie Precious

1.       The factors that contributed to Precious having low self esteem were that she was abused by her mother’s husband also that she was fat and un top of that her mother was always  telling her that she was good for nothing.

2.       The signs of low self- esteem that Precious display are that she was afraid of her mother and also that she feels depressed and eats a lot because there is not one day that her mother does not tell her that she is good for nothing.

3.       The defense mechanisms that I think Precious used to avoid dealing with pain were displacement and rationalization. For example she uses displacement when others talk to her at times she answers them in a rude way like for example when the little girl told her that she wanted to hug her baby when it was born she just pushed her and the little girl fell to the ground. Also rationalization she used when the teacher and the other woman asked her something she used to tell lies at first.

4.       The neurotic needs Precious displayed were the neurotic need to restrict one’s life within narrow borders and an example of this would be when the teacher  asked her to give her abilities and she rudely responded that she has no talents. And also she displayed the neurotic need for self sufficiency and independence because she never wanted to ask for help and when the teacher and the other lady (counselor) wanted to help her she didn’t wanted the help at first.

5.       When she entered to the institution where there were only girls she began to feel loved by her classmates and therefore her self esteem began to increase from the time she enter there

6.       Some of the signs of higher self esteem she displayed were that she was now able to know her strengths and weaknesses; she was now starting to be herself.

7.        I learned a lot of things from the movie Precious; it makes us aware that there are a lot of people out there in the world that live the same situation just as Precious and also it thought to me that I shouldn’t let others tell me that I am good for nothing because then that will bring my self esteem down and then I will be so angry with myself and also I would think that life wasn’t made for me.

8.       I would strongly recommend the movie to others because it is a very good and interesting movie and also it will help others and put them to think about what type of self esteem they have.   

Who I was

    Who I Was.

      I was born on the 31^st day of October in the year 1990. I am my parents’ first child and as a result of that am the oldest. I have only one brother and four sisters from which two of them are twins. As I grew up I went on learning lots of new things. From since I was small I was taken to live at my aunts’ house in Orange Walk town. I was taken there since my mom couldn’t handle with me and my brother when he was born. Later I was taken back to the village with my parents since I was the age to start primary school. The only reason why I was taking back to the village was because my parents and my aunt didn’t wanted for me to begin primary school in the town since it was dangerous and they were afraid that something terrible could have happened to me. I entered primary school at the age of five. I went on right through with out repeating any year of primary school. And now I feel glad and proud of myself. Then when the time came for me to enter high school I went back at my aunts’ house so that I didn’t have to travel every day to school. I felt terrible at first. I used to cry at times since I missed so much my brother and my sisters. I felt as if I was alone. But then I realized that it was for my good. I really wanted to get my diploma and so when I felt sad and alone I put in my mind that my suffering will be for something good. Also my aunts loved me and didn’t treat me bad at all. They care for me and look at me as if I were her daughter, her friend and her sister. Until today they treat me so and from the day I left home to start high school I never went back to live there again, sometimes I go but not to stay I just go to visit my family and spend only a day with them. I know my parents and my brother and sisters love me and I love them too.  I also managed to do my high school within four years time, without repeating any year. I graduated from high school thanks to my aunt since she was the one that paid all my high school bills. My father couldn’t afford to send me.

     I thank God for giving me the strength of overcoming my fears and obstacles. I am glad that I have successfully completed my primary and secondary grades. I feel great and very thankful to all of those who helped me on my way. I feel that these are my greatest achievements up until now. I really don’t think I have passed though a severe past trauma since I like how I was and until know I like how I live my life. My happiest moment well I am happy as long as I am tighter with he ones I love and care for. I feel sad when am far from my family. My life changing moment was when I went to live with my aunts living behind my parents and my brother and sisters, I felt very sad.

     My biggest influence for me to have reached up to the tertiary level is my aunt firstly because she always says to me that it is best to have an education and be independent but also she tells me to do things for myself and to help my family to have a better way of life. Since I don’t talk too much with my parents she is the one the talks to me about the things I do wrong and right. I know that she and as well my parents care for me and love me.